2 Ways To Attract Men
When out on the dating scene, be yourself to attract men. Don’t try to fit into a certain mold of the woman you think he wants you to be.
Don’t push men away by acting from insecurities that are not good representations of the “true you.” Don’t play the ‘ol “This is me and he has to like ME” card to attract men.
When you really like a guy, it can feel like insecurities take over and you can do and say things that don’t feel like you. It can feel like fear has taken over your brain and filled you with such anxiety, you have to do whatever you can to make sure he likes you and sticks around. Fear can even stop you from saying and doing things that you know you should—like be honest and open about your feelings.
Here are 2 ways to be more yourself around men and attract men with your confidence:
Don’t Take Things Personally
I can’t tell you how many times I took the actions of a man too personally when dating online. Guys would ask to meet me and then take weeks to schedule an actual date, or would date me a few times and then bail out for a week, only to call again for another date.
I always assumed I was forcing men to treat me this way. I was so hard on myself, when the truth was that these guys probably had their own insecurities and acted sketchy with a lot of women.
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If a guy is worth your time, he will schedule dates when he says he will, and if he’s a good guy who just isn’t that into you, he won’t yo-yo you.
When you take things too personally, you start to get paranoid and needy. You feel compelled to change a man’s mind about you and prove to him you are worth his time. All this makes you act from a place that isn’t you and it makes you waste a lot of quality time on guys who aren’t worth your energy.
When you stop taking things personally, you have confidence and a blissfulness that’s impenetrable. Men find such strength incredibly sexy.
Stop Showing Him How Great You Are
Look, you are awesome. You’re totally lovable and there is a guy out there for you. What will keep men away is your need to hide this awesome you and try to impress them with a false self.
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When you try hard to be some idea of a woman and hide your true feelings, you start acting weird. You start losing yourself to your need to be some concept woman and you look to men to help you find a way back to your own self-esteem.
When you stop showing him how great you are, you stop calling him too often, planning dates, spending too much time and money on clothes and looking good, pretending that you don’t care that he hasn’t called in a few days or that he seems a little distant, etc. and you start believing that you’re worth a guy who calls YOU, plans the dates himself, thinks you’re gorgeous in your everyday clothes and doesn’t get scared off when you admit that you didn’t like how long he waited to call.
When you follow these two suggested ways to attract men, you boost your confidence and your price tag goes up. It stays up because you only burn time and energy on the right men, who know how to appreciate your worth.