Goddess Love Help: Getting Grounded When He Pulls Back!
Goddess Love Help gets you feeling secure with yourself and your circumstances no matter what he’s doing!
So you’re dating a great guy and all of the sudden he needs space. Maybe his distancing feels out-of-the-blue, or maybe you’ve been sensing that he’s been slowly pulling back. What do you do? What do you say? The best goddess love help I can offer you is to stop worrying about what to do and what to say.
The more you chase him, strategize, stress and worry about his actions and his response, the more you are pushing him away.
Playing Hard To Get Doesn’t Work
First let me clarify that goddess love help NEVER involves playing games. Games don’t work. Games are useless because they don’t address the underlying issues that force you to play games in the first place.
When you play games (silent treatment, feigning indifference, going hot then cold, etc.) you gain a man’s attention; however, the reconnection is short lived. Usually he will just take space again after a few weeks or months, and you will be forced to play games again.
Playing games puts you on a disheartening hamster wheel; games don’t bring you and him closer (playing games actually does the opposite because games play off of a man’s abandonment issues); games destroy your self-esteem.
Your participating in games sends a direct message to the areas of your brain that manage your self-worth: “I have to pretend not to care about this man and manipulate his feelings because I am not loveable just as I am, when I am just being myself.”
And you are loveable just as you are! You become someone you aren’t when you try too hard with games and that’s not attractive.
Goddess Love Help Is All About Being One With The Universe
Buddhists believe in The Oneness: the theology that all living things are of the same thread of God—that the loving energy that has created you is the same that has created me and so on. We are all connected and that connection (that endless energy, like a thread) is God.
My goddess love help makes use of The Oneness.
Right now he is pulling back from you and you are panicking. You love him and don’t want to lose this amazing man. You’re playing every scenario over in your head, wondering where you went wrong—what you said or did to push him away.
But you will never know what you did wrong… or even if his distancing had anything to do with you at all. In fact, in many cases, a man’s emotional distancing has to do with his emotional unavailability more than it has to do with a woman’s behavior in the dating relationship.
So it’s best to stop analyzing and worrying about what you did wrong or what you can do to change things. It’s best to stop worrying about him as much as possible.
But how do you take the focus off him? You do it by embracing The Oneness and gathering strength, peace of mind and loving energy from the world around you.
Next time you feel compelled to reach out to him and fix the issues between you both, take a deep breath instead and allow the strength of The Oneness to soothe and replenish you:
Go fro a walk and take a look at the natural world around you: the rustling trees that have spread their roots over this earth for decades before you were born; the tiny roses that seduce bees, butterflies and hummingbirds with their potent fragrance; the little weeds that struggle to sprout between the wedges in the sidewalk…
Take energy from each of these things. Feel your heart expanding with love, life and perseverance. Feel your connection to these life systems and allow yourself to ‘just be’ as they are ‘just being’ in that moment:
The tiny roses don’t try and seduce the insects, they just do. They exist and naturally function as they were meant to function. You were meant to just be in the moment and live in that awareness without stress about the future or past. This is your way of seducing a man.
Getting Grounded—Avoiding Pulling Energy
The more you feel the power of The Oneness and the more you can ‘just be’ among the loving energy that is all around you, the less you will pull your man toward you.
See, he can feel your pulling energy. He can sense it even without being in your physical presence. It lingers in every text, email and phone call.
He has pulled away to get relief from this energy. It’s very smothering and he doesn’t have to the tools (a lot of men don’t) to help ease your distress that is causing your pulling energy.
This doesn’t mean that you have pushed him away—he could be so sensitive to a woman’s emotional needs that the slightest pulling energy on a woman’s part scares him. This kind of man is called emotionally unavailable and there is nothing you can do to change him from being this way.
Some men are not emotionally unavailable, they just don’t know how to process and deal with a woman’s pulling energy. They run away (temporarily or permanently) instead of communicating what they think and need.
Nourish Your Heart With The Universe Instead Of Through Him
Finding your grounding and feeding off the energy of the universe takes the burden off him. He stops feeling like you are dragging him down (pulling him under) with needs and demands.
When you can BOUNCE BACK from a fight… when you can stop sweating the small stuff… when you can remove yourself from the drama of the relationship and find your way back to a loving, peaceful heart… when you can surrender and not try and control his thoughts and feelings… that’s when you will find true love.
That’s when the question becomes—Is HE mature enough for MY emotional maturity and newfound ability to love and share intimacy? And if the answer is ‘no’, you will let him go as easily as you would a leaf into a river.
Check out my eProgram Inspire His Love For You. Its coauthor and I spent months compiling some of our best goddess love help, most of which is about finding ways to stop having pulling energy. The program will transform your life and the way you think about love. It’ll show you the significance of SURRENDER and ‘going with the flow’. It will also give you the self-esteem to NATURALLY seek out great men.
Goddess Love Help: He Wants Space? Now What?
He Wants Space & You Want Him! Time To Breathe & Tell Him How You Feel Before He Takes His Time Away!
If a man has recently told you that he wants space from you and the relationship, I know how you feel. I’ve been in a few dating relationships with men who have taken space. Sometimes it seems like a man is 100% devoted to dating you and then, all of a sudden, out of the blue (without any real relationship problems), he wants space. I was heartbroken and shocked each time this happened to me.
Now it’s time for you to follow my love help advice and soothe your heartache and worries. It’s time for you to reclaim your life and find your grounding so that you don’t reach out to him and you don’t fall into a well of darkness and low self-esteem like I did countless times before in my past.
What To Tell Him When He Wants Space
When he wants space, you have to give him space. You have to respect his wishes and his needs. It doesn’t mean you have to like that he wants space.
So, how do you respect his desire for distance while still being honest about your feelings? It’s simple. You tell him how you feel.
Do you feel worried that he’ll never come back? Tell him. Do you feel angry that he “slapped” you with this from what seems like left field? Tell him. Do you doubt whether you want to stay with him if he does come back? Tell him. Are you worried that you did something wrong that caused him to claim he wants space? Tell him.
Tell him everything you feel—all of it is safe to say; he won’t run further away. The key is in the DELIVERY. It’s all about the VIBE you have when you speak with him and in the SPECIFIC WORDS you choose when speaking to him.
My Love Help To You: Focus On Your Vibe
When you talk to him after he wants space, you have to have grounded energy. You have to resist the urge to pull him toward you. Practice planting your feet in the ground and imagining that there are roots coming out of the earth, climbing up your legs.
Imagine that these roots are filled with loving, soothing, calming and comforting “soul food” that nurture you as if you are part of the plant. So every time you feel the inclination to beg him, plead to him, cry to him, or even to shut down and wall off—I want you to use this dating advice for women VISUAL to help you stay openhearted and still in one place. Make it so that he can come and go and you aren’t going to interfere by chasing him or pushing him away.
It’s like raising a child. When you sit back and let the child come to you and tell the child that you are there for him when and if he needs you, he will come closer and closer. When you are an overbearing caretaker (or a neglecting one), the child develops an insecure attachment with you. He also can feel unsafe with you—that you are a burden to him emotionally because you are so overbearing.
Be the kind of mother who is available and “at peace” in her heart when you are talking with your man. Feel secure in your attachment to the earth so that you don’t fall victim to panicking about losing him.
The Specific Words You Use When Talking To Him
When you speak with him you have to not only stay grounded and unwavering in your ability to let him come and go without your interference, you also have to use words that he can hear—words that are effective at communicating your TRUTH.
Stick to talking about your feelings. You can talk about your feelings for him and your feelings surrounding the fact that he wants space. You should avoid blame and any words that negate his need for space.
Do say things like:
I love you and I’m sorry if I hurt you.
I appreciate our relationship and I do care about your feelings.
I will miss you during this time but I want to respect your wishes.
Right now I am angry, confused, sad, pissed, going crazy inside, etc.
I don’t know if I can wait for you but I think I’ll try.
I am scared that you are going to leave for good but I will be okay no matter what.
Don’t say things like:
You can’t do this to me!
Fine! Well then, I don’t want to be with you anymore! (when you do)
You are an a**hole, a commitment phobic jerk, an emotionally unavailable piece of ****, etc.
I won’t be okay if you leave me.
Once He’s Taken Space, You Have To Back Off
When he wants space, it’s time for you to refocus your energy on the parts of your life that have been neglected because of this dating relationship. What are you passions outside of him? Who are your friends and family members whom you haven’t seen in a while?
Dust off all the part of you that have been set aside because of the relationship.
Take Gentle Care Of Number #1– YOU
Do the very best to take care of yourself at this time. Take one day at a time and be very tender, loving, easy and forgiving with yourself.
Try to see his space as a time to self-reflect. What are the issues that you bring to a relationship that need some altering:
Are you too needy?
Do you commit yourself to guys too soon?
Do you pick the wrong guys?
Are you susceptible to being treated like a doormat?
Do you struggle with sticking up for yourself with men?
Do you have issues with knowing your personal boundaries?
Are you unable to be receptive and available when a man is emotionally available?
Are you brimming with uncontained, hostile emotion that is scary for a man?
Don’t Beat Yourself Up
Like I said—be gentle with yourself when he wants space. However, take the focus off wondering and worrying about him and about how he reacted to you and how he might need something else than what you offer, and instead ask yourself if you are happy with the way you’ve acted in the relationship.
So when asking yourself if you are too needy or too nice, don’t think about it from his point of view and what you think are his preferences. Think about it from your perspective. Think about whether you would date you.
Don’t Allow Yourself To Be A Victim When He Wants Space
If you feel like his need for space is triggering some abandonment issues inside you, it’s time to face those issues. Telling yourself things like; “I can’t live without him” and “I feel like I’m worthless now that he’s left” are somewhat normal feelings but too much of that thinking is very unhealthy!
Sometimes when he wants space, we start to romanticize the relationship and our feelings for him grow and grow the more he hurts us and ignores us. Be sure not to start marinating in the pain of his unavailability. Make sure not to be giving him more love and attention (even if it’s just in your mind) when he is distant than when he is available.
Some women have issues with this. They actually only get really “hooked” on the guy when he is pulling back. If you notice that you are giving far more attention to a man when he is drifting away from you than when he is available and eager to show you love and affection, you have to face the fact that you may have issues with intimacy.
Check out my eBook, Red Rose Woman: The Enchantress Inside You to read about my Enchantress Secrets. These secrets are like “goddess love help” rules to follow with men that will not only keep you feeling empowered, grounded and armed with the right words to affect him, they will also get you the kind of guy who deserves you, faces the music with solid communication and doesn’t just say he wants space when it’s probably not warranted.
Goddess Love Help: Is He Stringing You Along? What To Do…
There is nothing more devastating than feeling like the man you love is just keeping you around until he finds his love. I’ve been in this situation two times. Both men ended up marrying the women they left me to date. I can’t tell you how much it stung to watch these guys walk away and end up happy with someone else. My self-esteem was shattered and so was my heart. Once the second man left me, I vowed never to let another man use me. Are you letting a man use you? Is he stringing you along? Time for some fresh dating advice for women!
What Do You Want Out Of The Relationship?
First, let me ask you; Have you been clear with him about what you want? Do you even know? Sometimes we get upset at the idea that a man is just hanging with us until he meets someone who provokes more serious feelings, while we are doing the same thing with him. So it’s important that you are clear with men and with yourself about whether or not you can see a given relationship lasting for the long haul.
Dating Advice For Women: How To Talk With Him To Know If He Is Stringing You Along
If you know that he is the love of your life (or you at least know you want more from the relationship), you have to speak with him. It doesn’t have to be, nor should it be, a heavy and long speech; all you have to do is OPEN UP to him about how you feel. Simply say something like, “I like you very much and I want you to know that it’s my hope that, up the road, our relationship continues to deepen in love and commitment.”
Then don’t say anything else. Don’t pry him to see if he thinks there are relationship problems. Don’t ask him if he agrees with you, or if he doesn’t. Don’t do anything to “pull” him to you. Just speak your feelings and allow yourself to remain in the silence. It’s going to be tough; it’s going to feel awkward and vulnerable. I always say that the moment after you’ve spoken and while you wait for him to respond is the bravest thing you can do in a relationship. Are you brave enough to be vulnerable when finding out if he cares or if he is stringing you along?
The Awkward & Vulnerable Silence
That awkward and vulnerable moment of silence is exactly what you want to experience with a man when talking with him about delicate subjects and/or relationship problems. Once you trample and mask that awkwardness and vulnerability with words that provide relief for the vulnerability, you have lost the chance to deepen the connection. You have lost the tender realness that you are exposing to him—which is exactly what makes a man fall in love.
His Reaction To Your Words
When he responds to your profession, listen to him with an open heart and with a positive attitude. He may shut down and get quiet; he may be relieved to hear such news. He may profess his own desire to get closer. He may also tell you the painful truth that he doesn’t see the relationship going anywhere. If he tells you this, you have to assume that he is stringing you along.
Some of the best dating advice for women I can offer is to BELIEVE a man when he tells you that the relationship is nonexistent!
Please Believe What He Tells You
If he admits to stringing you along and not sharing the same feelings for you as you hold for him, you have to believe him. Even if you know in your heart that he does love you and he’s just scared and/or wounded, you have to still take his words as truth and tell yourself that he is stringing you along.
Why should you believe him? Because a man who tells you that the relationship doesn’t hold “forever” for him will never respect you or the relationship in the way you’d need and want him to—even if it does last forever.
Don’t you want a man who would climb to the top of the Empire State Building and profess his love for you? Don’t you want to know where you stand with a man? A man who tells you that he doesn’t see himself with you for very long can just meet someone else that does spark those feelings tomorrow and he won’t have anything holding him to you; “I told you it wasn’t for forever.” In fact, once he’s admitted his lack of love for you, he doesn’t even consider himself stringing you along… and you really don’t have any right to get angry if he leaves.
You will live with a constant feeling of uncertainty and insecurity that will slowly eat away at your self-esteem.
If You Feel Like He’s Stringing You Along, You May Always Feel That Way
Usually when a man makes you feel like he is stringing you along, he’s emotionally unavailable (either to you or in general). He may not be stringing you along—he may see himself marrying you—but if you don’t feel safe and comfy in the relationship, it may just be that he isn’t sharing enough of himself with you to make you feel a distinct partnership unfolding. If this is the case, he may just be too emotionally hidden for you. Some people don’t make their emotions available and they live life more insular. This can be a problem for their lovers and family members who need to feel security within the relationship.
If your man is emotionally unavailable (I’m not talking sociopath or even jerk—I’m just saying that he isn’t sharing his feelings and thoughts enough), I can tell you that he will always be that way. He may open up a little over time, sharing tiny fractions of himself more and more, but a person doesn’t go from emotionally unavailable to an open book without serious therapy and self-growth.
If He’s Stringing You Along—DATE
If you feel like the man you love is stringing you along—whether he really is or not—it’s not only time to share your feelings, but it may also be time for you open your heart to new possibilities. If your talk with him doesn’t improve things, let him know that you want to start seeing other people; “I’m not ready to invest myself in a relationship with someone who doesn’t seem to have the same vision for the relationship that I do.”
Then get out there and date. You don’t have to sleep with other men (in fact you shouldn’t). You just have to start taking the focus off this man who is making you feel like he’s stringing you along; start showing yourself that this man isn’t the only guy out there. You may not have strong feelings for any of the men you meet, but date every guy you do meet who seems like a good guy 3 times. This is important because a lot of the time it takes 3 or 4 dates to let go of comparing a man to an ex and actually getting to know and like the real him.
If you want to know for sure if he is stringing you along, check out my eProgram, Inspire His Love For You. It’s serious, AMAZINGLY effective LOVE HELP: a relationship guide that shows you how to inspire a man’s love and devotion without ever losing your self-respect. Sometimes we need to refocus our attention in other areas to start feeling secure in the relationship and thus start allowing him to come closer. Many women blame men for the dissolution of a relationship when in fact they are pushing the man away. Inspire His Love For You will help make you into the vulnerable and sensual partner that a man needs in his life so that he feels SAFE ENOUGH to open up and fall in love.
A good question to ask yourself to know if Inspire His Love For You is what you need: How easy is it for you to expose your vulnerability to men?
Goddess Love: Tips To A Happier, More Attractive You!
Self-acceptance is the main lesson of life. When you find a way to accept your weaknesses and own your strengths, you not only feel grounded and happy, but you attract a higher caliber of men. You become a goddess! Self-love releases you from the chains of not feeling like you are enough and allows you celebrate love instead of chase relationship problems!
The Key To Self-Love– You Are The Same As Everyone Else
Self-love starts with knowing that you are, as Marianne Williamson puts in in her book, Return To Love, both special and not special. You are uniquely you and yet you are the same as everyone else. All of us are energy. We are all born in the eyes of God (or, if you aren’t religious, from the miraculousness of the universe.) No one person is more special than the next. We are each equal portioned bits of humanity.
When you can stop listening to you ego, which makes you want to feel important, you can start listening to your heart, which makes you want to extend love and share in loving connections, then you can build self-love. Self-love can’t exist in a body that houses a ego-driven mind.
Happiness Is An Inside Job
In Marci Shimoff’s new book, How To Be Happy For No Reason, it explains how everyone has a happiness set-point and that our brains are wired to always return to this neurochemical set-point after spikes and dips. It doesn’t matter how much money you have, how great your relationship, how successful and famous you get or how great of a guy you “snag”, your happiness set point stays constant.
When you can understand that a certain man or type of relationship can’t change your overall level of happiness and thus can’t give you anything that you don’t already have inside you, you can stop giving your power to men and can start the journey to self-love.
Everything you want from a man– all that love that you think he has that is going to change your life—you already have it inside you. You have so much love inside. You are a ball of loving light and energy and when you can embrace your Light, you can begin to raise your happiness set point. When you can forgive yourself and forgive men for their limitations… when you can sit in your hollowness and feel your existential pain… when you can stay calm, loving and grounded in your center… you can alter your brain wiring and reset your happiness set-point.
Surges Of Loving Energy Can Produce Self-Love
What makes you feel cozy inside?… A kitty? A warm cup of coffee? The perfect meal? Think about the small things that give you momentary happiness and then hold onto that loving surge of warm, comfy, giggly happiness. Whenever you are feeling down and hard on yourself, don’t fight the negative dark thoughts– give into them, but also think about the small things that make you happy. When surges of loving energy start to fill your body, the darkness will subside.
These surges of love will actually soothe your negative thoughts and make you feel more accepting of yourself. It works better than mantras, because it’s hard to believe a mantra when you are down on yourself. But when you can simply feel surges of love when thinking about the simple things that bring you pleasure, you alleviate the emotional heaviness that comes with dark, self-judging thoughts. Suddenly, you feel lighter, calmer, more centered, blessed to be alive and happier in your heart. These feelings allow self-love to blossom.
In my eProgram Inspire His Love For You, I offer GODDESS LOVE HELP & talk about opening your little girl heart to men who deserve you! Your little girl heart is the part of you that’s all-trusting and 100% selfless and vulnerable. When you can “unbutton” your heart, you become enchanting with men. They then want to laugh with you, take care of you, learn about their own emotions through you and just be around you all the time. The program offers several ways to heal past traumas and other emotion-blockers and gives you tips to step into your little girl heart easily and quickly.
Are You Emotionally Needy? Time To Channel A New Vibe & Feel Like His Goddess
Do you feel like everything you do and say to bring him closer is pushing him further away? Does he seem to almost have apathy toward you, rolling his eyes or shutting down and getting rude and grouchy when you try to talk about the relationship? Do you feel like his behavior is making you more emotionally needy and you just wish he’d warm up to you again so you can stop feeling insecure?
If you answered, “yes” to these questions, it’s time to change your vibe.
First, let me say that it’s not your fault. Stop letting his cold shoulder and insensitive words get you feeling like a freak or a weak woman. Everyone gets insecure at times and there’s probably a good chance that his behavior has contributed to your insecurities. It’s really hard even for me to stop myself from falling down into a dark, emotionally needy place when my man pulls back.
The key for me and for YOU is to understand that your insecurities in your relationship don’t affect your worth as a woman. Knowing (and LIVING) this is huge and will help you slip out of the dark, spiraling, anxious place and feel confident and free—no matter what he is doing.
Separate Your Sense Of Self From Your Relationship’s Issues
It’s human nature to lean on your partner or other loved ones for a sense of self. As babies, it’s key to healthy development that our parents instill in us a strong, independent, loving and kind sense of self– we are born extremely impressionable and for the most part, we stay that way.
As women, we are extra sensitive to our environments and have a hard time not letting our environments and the people around us mold our sense of self. Women are very adaptable, which is a beautiful quality that makes us able to gets through all sorts of situations; however, it can make us feel insecure quickly when things don’t go right in our relationships.
When YOU decide not to let him puppet your sense of self, everything becomes easier in your relationship. You not only are able to break free of emotionally neediness, you also seek out men who are more confident and understanding our your needs and insecurities.
How To Change Your Vibe From Emotionally Needy To Goddess!
When you change your vibe and stop being emotionally needy, you are filled with FEMALE POWER. You take the power back in your relationship and you instantly feel grounded, like a tree rooted to the earth, even in moments where your man is acting strange and distant.
Tree Energy Exercise:
One way to ground yourself is to use a visual—the tree I mentioned above is a good one. Imagine there are roots coming straight up out of Mother Earth’s belly, shooting into the bottom of your feet. Imagine that inside the roots thrives a powerful energy force that makes you feel comforted, nurtured and emotionally “fed”. Close your eyes now and imagine the roots tangling up inside your body—wrapping around organs, blood vessels, nerves and muscles. Imagine that your body is lite up with this amazing energy. Feel yourself glowing with sparkly green, pink, yellow particles of light that are radiating off the roots.
How To Act Like His Goddess
Once you start taking emotional nourishment from the earth and cut the “umbilical cord” that you have attached into your man’s heart, you will feel stronger. This umbilical cord is not a heart connection, but it’s a drainage system that has depleted him of life force. Right now he can’t handle your need for connection and that has made you latch onto him in this way.
It’s time to sever this cord by not “pulling at him” when he is already acting grumpy. Here’s what I want you to do next time you are with him and feeling like you want to talk about his behavior and his feelings about you:
Take a deep breath and take the focus off him. Do the tree-energy exercise and when you feel grounded, look at him while continuing to feel rooted in place and say, “I feel sad. I feel disconnected from you and I don’t want to feel this way in a relationship. What do you think I should do?”
Then I want you to listen to what he has to say. If he comforts you, let him. If he gets upset, just breathe and stay grounded. Say, “I don’t want to upset you but this is how I feel and it’s important to me that I voice my feelings.” Then I want you to get up and go do something that makes you happy.
Changing Your Vibe Is About Taking Your Focus Off Him And Placing It Onto Your Feelings!
When you speak up about your feelings and take control of your happiness, you change your vibe. He’s expecting you to focus on him because that’s what you’ve been doing—analyzing what he feels and what he’s thinking. When you starts to see that you have taken the attention off of trying to change him and put it back on yourself, then he will come closer. Until then, he’ll feel smothered and even controlled.
Being a goddess is about selfishness. When I use that word, I simply mean that you detach from his life force and you prioritize your emotional needs. You stop worrying about what he thinks, feels and needs and you start taking care of YOU. It doesn’t matter what he feels or what he is thinking, if what YOU feel is YUCKY. If you feel yucky, it’s about finding a way out of that place that doesn’t include trying to change him. You can share your feelings, ask for change and express your needs, but if he isn’t willing to hear you or offer you reassurance of his love, you have to ground yourself and take nourishment from another source– like the earth.
A goddess is communicative, always speaking the simple truth about how she feels. She owns her feelings and can say, “I feel sad, angry and weak today” in the same unashamed tone as “I feel happy, soft inside and confident today!”
What can you do to ground yourself and cut the cord? Thoughts?
What Attracts A Man To A Woman? Goddess Energy!
Wondering what attracts a man to a woman? Men are vastly different as individuals but are very easy to understand as a collective whole.
Most straight men want to find that special woman who makes them feel like they can go out into the world and accomplish anything. The average good guy wants a woman he can proudly stand beside at a public function, a woman who understands and fulfills his sexual needs, a woman who trusts in herself and stands up for herself when necessary, and most importantly a woman who ‘gets’ him on a deep emotional level. This type of woman has goddess energy!
So how to you harness your female power to emit goddess energy and quickly and easily become the best version of yourself for your relationship? Well, first, you have to stop doing things for the relationship and for him and you have to start doing things for yourself. I don’t mean that you become a demanding diva with your nose in the air and your finger pointing constantly at the things you want your man to do for you. I do, however, want you to relish in selfishness.
Selfishness is first part of a spiritual journey and the first step toward having the kind of goddess energy your man adores.
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Many spirituality teachers discuss the importance of being selfish. You must have self-love if you are to love anyone. If you don’t take the time to know yourself and accept yourself on a deep level (this requires you to be self-centered), you will always put your anxiety and negative self-reflection out into the world. You will try to control and manage others instead of act truly giving and loving free of charge. You will pull the kinds of reactions you want from people instead of allow them to feel fully accepted in your presence. Why? Because without self-love and self-acceptance you’re too reliant on others to feed you love. Your lack of self-love will make you desperate to fill the seeping bottomless pit of lovelessness in your heart with other people’s loving words and actions.
When you are truly selfish, YOU provide for yourself and you get to know your body and mind to the point of being able to know when you need to pamper yourself and when you feel ‘charged’ enough with positive loving energies to go out into the world and truly do for others. Having goddess energy is knowing when to look out for yourself and when to do what you can for your man.
When you don’t put yourself first, you rely too heavily on your man to make you happy. You get hypersensitive to everything he says and does and you become paranoid. This happens because you give him too much power. You need too much from him, and when the cards are all in his hand, you feel out-of-control. You try to regain control by controlling him-- what he says, where he goes, how he shows you affection, etc.
Goddesses aren’t codependent; codependent women are so entangled in a man, they don’t know where he ends and they begin.
Codependent women try to soothe, nurture and love a man for all the wrong reasons– they do these things to soothe, nurture and love themselves. This kind of transference feels really smothering and weird to a man. It can fill him with anxiety: Constant soothing makes the receiver feel like he is being soothed because something is wrong, and this will make him anxious. Lots of parents do this– they constantly soothe a child to feel calm and the child grows up anxious and feeling all the time like some impending doom is upon them. Don’t do this to your man. It will push him away.
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Goddesses avoid codependence and transference by being very mindful of their behavior in a relationship. A goddess is so in touch with herself, she knows when she feels ‘off’ inside. She also knows when she’s focusing too heavily on her relationship and doing it a disservice. She knows the difference between having healthy and reasonable emotional, spiritual and sexual needs in a relationship and putting too much pressure on the man to be her everything.
Goddess energy makes you calm, patient, observant and detached. What do I mean by detached?
A goddess can disengage from negative energy quickly. She knows when to leave an argument (or how to avoid one from starting) before it becomes drama. Goddess energy is about stopping an obsessive mind from getting hooked on a chemical response. Goddesses can tell immediately when they are losing power to a man or a circumstance. They know how to detach from the fears and insecurities that can dictate poor choices. They know when and how to re-engage in fun and self-loving activities to take care of themselves when things are bad in a relationship.
Goddess energy empowers a woman to know when to walk away from a relationship and a man.
Goddesses know when there is more heartache than happiness in a relationship. They also know that happiness in a relationship is not about chemistry and feeling a ‘high’ when things are good in the relationship. Happiness in a relationship involves no chemical highs and instead is more of a soft, safe, peaceful and tender feeling. Goddesses know that the most important part of a relationship is emotional security and feeling safe (not to be abandoned, controlled, played with, objectified, etc.)
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What attracts a man to a woman is a goddess vibe that sends a man a clear message: ”I am a loving, trusting and calm woman and I expect respect, fidelity and love from you in return.” This kind of energy keeps a man from feeling smothered and walking on eggshells, while also keeping him ‘in check’. He feels equally that she is easy-going in the relationship and also high-maintenance (in the sense that he knows she will not tolerate real crap from him).
Finally, goddess energy is sensual, soft and sweet.
Goddesses know how to ‘tenderize’ a man’s soul and win a man’s heart with her soft curves, sultry voice and loving caresses. The key to being a sensual goddess is to know your boundaries. When you know for a fact what you will and won’t tolerate, your body can loosen up and your mind stays present with a man (enjoying his company). It’s when you don’t trust yourself with a man that you get brittle and step into your defensive masculine energy. Your masculine energy protects you and allows your subconscious to scream in a man’s ear; “You better back the f**k up and not hurt me!”. Men can not get intimate with that kind of energy. It makes them challenge you, play power games with you or just run away from you. Female energy whispers in a man’s ear; “Come hither. I trust myself enough to not let you too close unless you behave. So be a good boy, and let’s enjoy each other.”
My eProgram for women, Inspire His Love For You, is more comprehensive. It’s a 2-part handbook on saving a relationship. It also comes with a meditation track that offers self-loving mantras and self-soothing meditations to help you through hard moments in a relationship when you feel eager to hand over your power to a man. This program is all about being mindful, making you more self-aware of how you behave in your relationship. It dissects your fears and insecurities, shining a light on all the ways in which your subconscious sabotages your changes at bliss. It has a wonderful section on self-providing and teaches you how to instantly have a better connection to yourself and your inner child. Your inner child, free of distrust, neurosis and a self-loathing, clingy mentality, is what attracts a man to a woman!
Date Night Beauty Regime: Removing The Mask
Photo: Silvana’s Skin Care spa (SilvanaSkinCare.com)
As a dating and relationship coach my tools and techniques mostly involve working with women from the ‘inside-out’: finding a way to get closer to a man by getting closer to yourself and changing your thoughts. Sometimes however it helps to work from the ‘outside-in’.
A Calvin Klein sheath dress fresh off the rack or a pair of Burberry T-bar sandals can click on my feminine energy like a light switch. In this article I’m recommending a date night beauty regime that will not only make your skin radiant but will boost the love and confidence you feel in the presence of your man.
Right before date night, I’m a big fan of clay masks. They give my skin the buff and polish it needs. I have been a fan of Lancôme’s Pure Empriente Masque and Murad’s Clarifying Mask. But then I was given a sample of a facial clay mask that has changed my skin, and, in turn, my confidence.
Silvana Mak is a trusted, LA-based medical esthetician and skincare expert who gives a fantastic Brazilian bikini wax. She also has her own skincare line appropriately called Silvana Miracle. Her Vitamin C Serum is a favorite with her clientele. I am a devoted fan of Silvana’s Ocean and Earth Clay Mask. It’s goddess glow in a bottle!
Silvana’s date night beauty secret Ocean and Earth made my skin plump and moist, my pores tight, and the surface of my face feel like soft butter. My man even noticed, commenting that I looked youthful. And this is a man who took 3 hours to notice when I went from blonde to brunette.
I am a devoted fan of Silvana’s Ocean and Earth Clay Mask. It’s goddess glow in a bottle!
Just the ingredients listed on the clay mask’s label say it all. We are a society that is becoming health conscious and looking at labels when deciding what to eat. But it’s important to look at the label when you choose to put something on your skin. The ingredients in Silvana’s date night beauty regime mask, Ocean and Earth, are clean and simple: Water, Natural Earth Clay, Spirulina From the Ocean, Aloe, Kelp and Grape seed Oil.
Compare that list to what’s inside your favorite brand’s clay mask. I bet you won’t be able to pronounce most of those ingredients.
And the best part—Ocean and Earth softened my heart too. This date night beauty regime left me feeling so good about my 34 year-old derma that I almost danced my way to the table at my and my boyfriend’s favorite date night wine and cheese bar. I was playful, basking in the attention I received from my partner from across a charcuterie board.
I didn’t even have to think loving thoughts or make an effort to be appreciative and sweet that night. I just felt those things happen organically, and before the wine started to pour. Silvana helped me feel good about myself in a way that no other skincare brand has. Her date night beauty products are like a love potion No. 9 that makes women fall in love with themselves for a night. And what do I always say about dating: Men fall in love with women who fall in love with themselves.
Ocean and Earth’s more-than-reasonable $20 price tag didn’t hurt either. Goddess Glow that’s easy on your canvas tote.
How To Fix Unhealthy Relationship Patterns
If you’re scanning this website you’re probably not happy in your love life. And you’re probably very angry with men as a result. Maybe a man who you thought was one of the good guys recently dumped you. Maybe your husband cheated on you and you aren’t sure if you’ll ever be able to forgive him. Maybe you’re like I was and have experienced bad relationship after bad relationship. Maybe you even know you have dysfunctional relationship patterns.
We don’t pick the men we pick by accident. Every romantic relationship brings childhood affairs to the surface. The way you go about getting your needs met in your relationships with men is the way you learned how to get your parents’ attention. The way a man’s actions make you feel has everything to do with the way your parent’s actions made you feel as a child.
Most of us know this. It’s Psych 101. However, when we’re tangled up in a man and all the chemical romance, it’s hard for us to really see our childhood relationship patterns at play. It’s even harder to stop them in their tracks.
Most of us know when we’re working too hard for love or when we’re accepting crumbs. Maybe we don’t want to accept that our weak sense of self in the relationship is similar to the way we felt as a child in the bond with our mother or father, but we do know when we are involved in something that feels unfulfilling and punishing.
I Feel Ya: Relationship Patterns Are Tough To Break!
But we can’t step back; we can’t break free; we can’t stop ourselves from chasing! The need for him and his love feels bigger than us; it’s working on us and we are powerless to slow down—like we’re on a treadmill and we know we’ll fall flat on our face if we stop running at the speed of the belt.
The harder we work to keep him and the longer we stay in there accepting his crap, the angrier we grow. We turn more and more hopeless and despaired. Our insecurities flare up and we lose our ability to be ourselves without questioning every statement we make and every action we take; “Was that too needy of me to say? Should I not have called him back so soon?”
We put ourselves into a box, and the box slowly gets tinier and tinier. Soon we can barely move around in the box and we then live with constant fear that we are ‘too much’, too emotional, too needy, too angry… too bad.
We even victimize ourselves or make ourselves martyrs for love. I have a friend who tells me, every time she lets an emotionally unavailable man break her heart (which has been quite a few times since I met her a decade ago): “It’s just that I’m too nice. I believe in the good in people. I trust that a man can change.” I just want to smack her upside the head; she knows, from day 1, these men are limited, she knows they don’t have the tools to have a healthy partnership with her or any woman, and yet she chooses to trust them over and over again. Why? What is she getting out of it? How is her “I’m a saint whose good deeds go unseen” routine secretly rewarding her?
How Are Your Unhealthy Relationship Patterns Secretly Rewarding You?
They Give You The Chance To Fix A Broken Heart: Repeating dysfunctional relationship patterns with limited men gives us a chance to fix our childhoods, or fix past romantic relationships in which we got burned. It gives us a chance to say to our inner child; “Maybe I was never able to get mommy’s love but this guy, who is like mommy (or like my ex) in so many ways, will mend my little-girl heart.”
They Give You The Chance To Feel Worthy Of Love: Limited men actually dig you deeper into a hole of lovelessness and self-loathing. But when you are in the trenches, fighting for your life and the relationship, you don’t see it that way. You have a definition of love that’s based on what you’ve experienced in life. Getting with an emotionally available man who has healthy relationship patterns won’t make you feel loved if his way of loving you is foreign. You may like the idea of what he has to offer, but it will hang in the air like a concept and it won’t feel as rewarding as it would if you got Mr. Unavailable to change. You seek out a limited guy who loves in the painful way you are used to, and then, by the grace of your giving and loving nature, he evolves into a more emotionally available man—that’s when your inner child feels worthy of love!
Your Unhealthy Relationship Patterns Give You The Chance To Be The Good Girl: If he’s the crazy guy, the emotionally unavailable guy, the jerk, the rage monster, the unaccountable man boy, then you get to be the sane one, the emotionally available one, the lovely, mature woman. In every relationship one person carries an aspect of the relationship. With the emotionally unavailable guy you get to embody all the appealing qualities and he, all the negative ones. The relationship may make you feel out of control and small, but inside you also feel righteous; “I did all the right things. I loved him harder than anyone ever would. He’s the unreasonable, evil one, not me.” You can reward yourself for all your efforts, even if they don’t amount to much; you can pat yourself on the back, even if the man is running away.
They Give You A Chance To Be Unaccountable To Your Happiness: How can you possibly have any chance at bliss if a man is treating you like dog poop? You can’t; therefore, you get out of your responsibility to yourself scott-free. You can whine and complain and get angry with God; you can act out and continue to feel like the victim, and it’s all somehow justified because you were toyed with.
If you want to break unhealthy relationship patterns once and for all and truly invite love into your life (instead of subconsciously keeping the door shut), then sign up for my goddess advice newsletter. My tools, exercises and insight will shed light on your dark side and turn you into a goddess who isn’t afraid to redefine love as something positive, filled with intimacy, trust and closeness!
I’m Freaking Out & Reading Into Everything
Here’s a letter written to Sarah Jeanette (coauthor of Inspire His Love For You) and me. It’s from Claudia, who is in a long distance relationship; however, any of us in local relationships could also be in her shoes.
Kristina & Sarah,
Hi. I can’t tell you enough how thankful I am to have just bought your program. My circumstance is very common, I think. I am freaking out and reading into everything that my boyfriend is saying and doing.
Six months ago I moved two states away from him. When I left we made no plans for the future together. He said that he didn’t know how we would work out. I told him I would stay if he was sure of me, but he said it was too soon to know.
We have been together for three years. I think that “too soon” is a cop-out.
I moved, and since then , we are not talking that much on the phone and every time he doesn’t answer his phone, I assume he just doesn’t want to talk to me. He never calls me back right away and keeps his calls short.
The thing is that when I talk about my feelings and breaking things off, he says no. He says he loves me and doesn’t want to lose me. But we speak only like 3 times a week and haven’t seen each other in 2 months.
My family says I should just break it off, but I don’t want to do that. I love him and would move back to be with him but my job is good and he doesn’t seem to want to commit.
Should I move on? How do I stop reading into everything? Sometimes he says I’m nutty for assuming so many things, but I can’t help it. I’m tired of feeling insecure and confused and I hope your program helps me win him back.
Our hearts go out to you. Long distance love is hard. Kristina did a 1 1/2 year long distance relationship and it was very trying on her heart and patience.
The problem we see here is that your man has not made any attempt to commit, and we think you are right about 3 years being enough time to know. Some men know within 6 months that a woman is ‘the one’.
We are happy that you moved away and didn’t wait around for this man to define your life.
We know how crazy not knowing can feel. Suddenly, every text he sends is read and reread for hidden meanings. It’s best you don’t continue reading into things. It’s time for you to talk with him.
It sounds like you both have talked but maybe not in an effective way. Our program will take you through the Tough Talk Toolbox to prep for the conversation. The important thing to keep in mind is that your feelings are valid and that you have a right to look after your needs. You can be polite, open, loving and sweet, while still being direct, honest and firm.
Don’t let him guilt-trip you for moving or make you think you’re crazy for worrying and feeling needy. You have a right to feel stressed; you haven’t seen him in months because he makes zero effort to connect and yet he tells you he doesn’t want to break up. It’s maddening.
Just state your feelings and let HIM come up with the solution. If he has no solution, then back off from the relationship.
You can take his calls, have him stay with you (if he asks to visit and he buys his ticket), you can respond to his emails… You can’t, however, initiate contact or invitations to visit you. You also have to be clear with him that you are going to casually date other men until he is ready to commit. This isn’t a threat, it’s a way for you to get back out there and see that there ARE other men in the world and PERHAPS some of them are better equipped and more willing to make you happy!
Flirt with men and connect with people. Make an effort to make new friends in your new home state. Get nestled in and every time you want to reach out to your man like he’s some familiar security blanket, find new security blankets in your new location (a great gal pal, a local gelato shop or a cozy bookstore).
If he loves you and wants you as his life partner, he will pick up the pieces where you left off. Right now, it’s easy for him to have you there waiting around. Make him think that you are too great to wait. Because you are!
All Our Inspiration,
Kristina & Sarah
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Inspire His Love For You
“Keep Reading To Learn About The SECRET RELATIONSHIP GUIDE BOOKS For Women That Will Make Him Addicted To You Forever… Even If He’s Currently Showing Little To No Interest!”
From the Desks of: Relationship Experts Sarah Jeanette & Kristina Marchant
Hello. We are Kristina & Sarah and we’ve spent our lives helping women just like you heal and save their love lives.
You are on this site searching for answers. That means you are proactive– the kind of positive and determined woman any man would be LUCKY to have in his life.
“Right Now You Aren’t Being Loved The Way You Deserve!”
If you are being ignored…
Or if his behavior is making you feel jealous & insecure…
Or if you’re analyzing everything he does…
Then this may be the most important letter you could read right now!
Unfortunately, love issues are TIME-SENSITIVE. Once a man goes from hot to cold, your window of opportunity is small.
So let’s get right to it:
- Does he only want a sexual relationship with you?
- Do you get used for your kind heart?
- Has he already asked for space?
- Does he “forget” to get back to you?
- Is he threatening to leave you?
- Is he cheating?
- Has his desire for sex with you all but DIMINISHED?
- Is he DEVOID of tenderness and passion?
- Do you feel like you walk on egg shells around him?
- Has he stopped complimenting you?
Don’t worry if these scenarios sound familiar; there is GOOD NEWS. We can help you today. We’ve been doing this awhile and we assure you that whatever your situation, we’ve helped a relationship come back from worse.
Even if he’s already left you for another woman there is still hope.
“We’ve Been In Your Shoes & Turned Our Love Lives Completely Around!”
Before we became highly sought-out experts on men and love, we were “messes in dresses”! We had psych degrees from impressive colleges but knew nothing when it came having and sustaining real life relationships.
If you answered “yes” to questions above, we both know exactly how you feel. Kristina’s husband just up and left one day. He filed for divorce weeks later. Then, she was left again by a great man who, at first, called her “his miracle”.
And Sarah had dead-end relationships with men for years– relationships that all once seemed so promising.
We were always so shocked at how FAST things seemed to fall apart. We went from being pampered, praised and adored to being emotionally dropped. We went from being the man’s top priority to his “afterthought”: something he thought about after his children, his job, his parents, his hobbies, etc.
“It Was The Same Heartbreaking Outcome Each Time We Liked A Guy”
- When things were good in our relationships, we felt strong and supported. We felt confident.
- When things were bad, we would act impulsively from a terrified, weak place inside us. We felt out of control; we pushed men further and further away by spiraling into a black hole of insecurity.
We’d be obsessed with a man’s behavior (what it all really meant) and we would over-think everything we said and did.
Not to mention, we would CATER to our distant and distracted men: more sex, more smiles, more jumping through hoops to plan the perfect date or the perfect text message.
But no matter what we tried, men remained distant and seemingly uninspired to love us and honor the relationship.
“Don’t Make The Fatal Mistakes Most Women Make When A Mall Pulls Back”
Mistake #1: Fill In the Spaces Where He Has Gone Lax
Most smart and successful professional women know what it takes to get ahead in business, but putting in sweat, blood and tears won’t win you back a man like it will a job promotion.
- Convincing him of why he should be with you
- Planning elaborate dates in hopes he will want to go
- Helping him do things that he should be doing for himself (paying his bills, etc.)
- Catering to him with massages or “performance sex”
- Making/buying him li’l gifts and sweet lovey cards
- Fighting for his love while he sits back
…you are not helping yourself.
You are actually rewarding him for bad behavior. You are indirectly saying, “Treat me poorly and I’ll give you more attention and fight harder for you.” You have to reward a man only for good behavior, and right now, that may be hard to come by.
Now I’m not saying he won’t appreciate your efforts. He may truly be grateful for your help and attention, but your efforts won’t make you more attractive. They may even push him further away.
“Thank you for writing this guide to love. I feel like books I read about men tell you an end-result of the kind of woman a man loves but these books detail how to get there.” -Greta, 63
Mistake #2: Keep Silent, Remain Closed Off & Stay Afraid
It’s a natural response when a man pulls back to want to shut up and not do anything that would further ruffle his feathers. But when you stop speaking your mind to please a man, you look weak and FEEL weak inside, which makes you act like a DOORMAT.
When a man can sense that you aren’t comfortable opening up to him about your feelings, he feels like he isn’t doing a good job at making you feel safe.
Even if your man doesn’t make you feel safe, he still would rather hear you speak up and express your concerns over watch you suffer silently out of fear.
Thinking that you are afraid to speak up will make him feel like the bad guy and he will pull back.
Plus, your lack of honesty will further disconnect the relationship.
- Inspire passion in his heart
- Have a more satisfying relationship, where he “shows up” fully.
- Feel like a new woman inside.
Mistake #3: Victimize Yourself By Whining, Crying & Screaming
Men want to please women. It allows them to feel their “power to provide”. However…
Once he starts to wall you off, you can’t harp on him about how much you hurt inside and how much you need him to work harder for your love. Once he starts laying emotional bricks between you, it’s just a matter of time before he loses attraction and even starts feeling APATHY toward you.
Look, it’s human nature to get LOUDER and more DESPERATE the longer you go unheard. However, turning up the volume makes him TURN THE CHANNEL. You end up totally tuned out.
Even though you have EVERY RIGHT to feel upset about not being heard, love isn’t about who is right. It’s about doing what works: crying, screaming, pouting or any other form of emotional reacting doesn’t work. It makes you feel like A WET BLANKET to him, dragging him down and closing him off.
“I was inspired by your two’s honesty about yourselves and decided to be courageous and speak about my fears to my boyfriend. He was quiet but attentive. I felt like I was naked or like my skin was “unzipping to him”… It was like an experience I had once at church… Well, when we went to sleep later after everything, he thought I was sleeping but I heard him cry. He touched me exactly how you two taught me to touch him and how I did earlier in the night. It was a miracle. I called his sister and told her. Bless you both.”- Nicole, 32
Mistake #4: Play Games With Him
Once you start playing hard-to-get, doing things such as ignoring his calls on purpose, you are setting yourself up to lose him in the long-run. Games only work for a while and they totally undermine trust in a relationship. If he comes back, it won’t be for long and you will have to continue playing games with him to keep him. Games get you a limited man for a limited amount of time.
When you play games, the only thing left in the relationship is POWER. The love is gone, the trust is gone and the two of you are left fighting for attention and control. It’s a lose-lose situation.
“Getting Him Back & Making Him Fall In Love Is Easier Than You Think.”
We make love so complicated and it doesn’t have to be. You already have everything it takes to inspire him. There is a goddess inside you who is dying to break free of the web in which you’ve entangled her so that she can help you save your relationship.
What your inner goddess understands is that you get more from men by doing less.
By doing less, I don’t mean putting a void between you and him to force him to bridge the gap. By doing less I just mean stop doing all the garbage that doesn’t work.
Your mind, your girlfriends, your mom… they are all lying to you. The words we tell ourselves and the advice we gather from loved ones only add more confusion, pain and insecurity. The key is to stop listening!
Start listening to your inner goddess.
“But where is she?,” you ask.
Our program will show you how to reach her. We’ll transform you into your highest self to be the fun, confident, sexy and carefree beauty he wants and needs in his life.
“So What’s The Answer To Bringing Him Closer?”
What your inner goddess innately “gets” is that there’s a secret to making him fall in love:
In love, you have to be TOUGH and TENDER at the same time.
You have to know how to RISK VULNERABILITY and be soft and sensitive yet still able to STAND UP for yourself.
Society has made us all very successful at putting up walls, even when we have no idea we are doing so. It’s important that you don’t have any emotional walls and can be vulnerable around a man. As women, we shutdown, harden and become brittle and too fragile. Too many of us are, unfortunately, like PORCELAIN– hard on the surface yet shattering to pieces at the slightest provocation.
Instead you need to be both MALLEABLE and UNBREAKABLE! You must be like a PALM TREE that bends with the storm to survive the winds.
- Are you currently too hurt and too INSECURE to feel comfortable around him?
- Have you EVER had the kind of relationship in which the man does the work and you just relax into his efforts?
- Do you let HIM be the MAN? Or are you too busy pushing him out of the driver’s seat so you can take the wheel?
“I was so very surprised at how your exercises helped crumble my walls in my relationship with my boyfriend and how well he responded to it. I really love the [Always Planted in Love Exercise].” -Kelly, 28
“You Already Have Everything It Takes & We Can Unleash Your Inner Goddess In An Hour!”
Even if he’s got one foot out the door…
Even if he’s told you he’s not in love with you…
We will take you by the hand and show you how to make him fall in love practically OVERNIGHT.
We will show you how to expose yourself to him fully, without chasing, without pretending, without forcing or getting anxious.
Then and only then, his heart will open.
“Men Don’t Even Know What We Understand About Men!”
Guys are CLUELESS as to how attraction forms. Look what one man wrote to us about other men:
“Your advice is so insightful. Men don’t get it. We don’t understand what makes us fall for a woman. We think sex appeal is about looks or sexual performance. Or we think that a woman is sexy when she keeps you chasing her. We don’t see how a vulnerable and sensual woman melts our hearts and makes us feel comfortable and turned on in their presence. Thank you for helping women understand us better ’cause we don’t have a freakin’ clue what makes us tick!”- Bill, 33
Men think they understand love and what makes them fall for a woman. They don’t. They have no idea.
They talk about wanting a woman who doesn’t bust their balls and gives them heaps of space. But what they don’t know is that they crave a woman who demands trust, honesty, respect and closeness in her relationship.
It’s always the nice, passive and complacent women who remain unmarried. Notice how the demanding women always have a husband?
We DON’T want you to become a bitch or parade around with false confidence. But we do want you to STOP listening to that advice out there telling you to worship a man’s need for space.
Stop trying to be easygoing. Just forget you heard it. It’s all junk that will get you nowhere with a man.
With a man you have to be the LOVE GUIDE and show him with your actions what it means to have a deeply intimate, close and loving partnership with someone. The LOVE GUIDE takes a man from thinking like a single person to thinking like one half of a devoted couple!
This program makes you an effective and cherished LOVE GUIDE!
“These books have been the savior of my self-esteem. I never before understood how to truly connect and share with a man…Kristina and Sarah are loving and non-judgmental teachers who have shown me the way to a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Thank you for giving me the tools I need to discover the relationship I’ve always longed for.” – Ginina, 33
Here’s the answer you’ve been looking for:
“Inspire His Love For You Is The Relationship Saver! It’s The Bible On Men And The Mirror Into Which You Can See Your Inner Goddess!”
- Rebuild Intimacy in your relationship and have him touching and kissing again you.
- Breeze through TOUGH TALKS like those about commitment and use those TENSE MOMENTS to bring him closer.
- Feel and act like a proud, dignified and sexy goddess!
- Have the tools at your fingertips that will keep him devoted, happy & UNDER YOUR LOVE SPELL for the rest of your lives!
Here’s What You’ll Get:
- A 2-volume relationship guide book of over 200 pages on inspiring a man to love and adore you. Direct Download (PDF format /adobe)
- A TRACK OF MEDITATIONS to help guide you.
- A MIND MAP to carry with you when you want to study up on how our insight and techniques interrelate, so that you can master the art of what we call “emotion seduction.”
- A GLOSSARY of all our unique, custom-created love terminology, which will help you scroll through our pages when you are in a hurry and need to find a specific exercise fast.
- Tons of famous, inspirational QUOTES to help encourage you on your journey and make you feel less alone in the process.
Inspire His Love For You VOLUME ONE
- We will teach you how to take all your confusing, hostile, scary, dark emotions and feelings of panic and turn them into peaceful, charming, engaging, trusting, lighthearted feelings that will make a man drawn to you.
- We will give you the number one reason why your fantasy relationship is still a goal and not a reality.
- We will help render your insecurities powerless, while ALSO showing you how to use them to CAPTURE HIS HEART.
- We’ll explain why your energy around a man is more important than what you say or do and simple exercises to instantly feel this vivacious, all-loving, all-trusting energy vibrating through your whole body.
- We’ll explain how to be more accurately AWARE of how your words and behavior are being received by him, in order to know if you are on the right track toward inspiring his love.
- We will help make you much less sensitive to his every movement and sentence, in order to raise your confidence about the relationship and not have you worried all the time about what everything means.
- You’ll get a wonderful exercises to help you quickly SELF-SOOTHE in moments of desperation, when you feel compelled to act compulsively and impulsively with him.
- We’ll explain at length about our concept of Love-Based Giving, and get you giving the best of yourself, from the best place inside you.
- We will teach you HOW to be interesting and dynamic in the eyes of highly intelligent men, even if you feel insecure about your level of intelligence.
- You’ll read about case studies of Friends With Benefits, Wives in Failing Marriages, Girlfriends With Evaporating Boyfriends, and other women in unsatisfying relationships and exactly how we helped all of them win-over the hearts of their men.
- We’ll restore your faith in men and in your man.
- We’ll teach you how to express your needs to him in a manner that will make him jump to serve instead think you are clingy.
- We will give you a secret tool that actresses like Jennifer Aniston, Emma Stone, and Julia Ormond use when acting in romantic comedies, in order to make you feel and act just as adorable, silly, quirky, and lovable as they are.
- You’ll get EXERCISES and TOOLS to give yourself permission to be happy, no matter WHAT a man is doing or saying to you.
- We’ll give you specific reasons why your man withdraws from loving you and warning signs and signals of his growing disinterest.
- You’ll learn how to cast your Feminine Light over a man and make him feel blessed to have your luminous glow in his life.
- You’ll learn meditations and Mantras to lift your self-esteem, soothe your anxieties about him, and get you excited about connecting with him.
- You’ll get a very PROACTIVE way of thinking about the word “love” that will help you turn feelings into dynamic behavior!
- You’ll learn all about our Signature Concept: having a little-girl heart with men! You’ll learn what it is, why it will magnetize men and exercises to help you have one with men.
- We will put you on the path to craving and seeking out only the kind of men you SHOULD be seeking out.
- We will OPEN YOUR EYES to the amount of ANGER you hold inside right now because of your relationship and how to defuse it, in order to stop subconsciously pushing him away and start to consciously bring him closer to you.
- We will help you heal your heart from past heartbreak and get you using these experiences to make you a better lover, partner, friend to your man.
- We will teach you about The Pact that every mindful and successful lover makes with herself in relating to men. It’s not what you think.
- We will guide you on HOW to journal your feelings in a way that will get you knowing yourself better, in order to STOP subconscious, self-sabotaging behavior.
- We will give you a Third Eye to Spot Toxic Men Within Minutes.
- AND many more exercises, tools, concepts and visuals to change your VIBE around him and get you seeing yourself in a clearer light, in order to ELECTRIFY his every SENSE!
Inspire His Love For You VOLUME TWO
- You’ll get insight into HOW to touch a man to create a safe place for him to express his vulnerabilities and WHEN to touch him this way.
- We will teach you HOW to take better care of your body, heart and mind and make your man find you irresistibly beautiful and confident!
- You will be loving your life enough to create strong personal boundaries and STICK to them.
- With our help, you will be easily communicating with all men in a way that will instantly bring down their guard and make them feel honored to be your shoulder to lean on.
- We will give you mindful step-by-step guide to follow when communicating with your man about the relationship, in order to inspire him to want to commit and/or be a better man for you.
- You’ll learn exactly how to express your feelings for him to him and get him WANTING to talk about the love between you both. Hint: Men are different than women. For him it’s all about his status in your eyes over the depth of feeling in your heart.
- We will transform you into Madame Receiver, knowing how to receive from a man and surrender control, in order to inspire his desire to serve and service you ALL THE TIME.
- We’ll give you a powerful tool which will make him ENJOY your texts, calls, emails, instead of wince at the sight of them.
- You’ll become more sexual overnight– desiring sex more often and awakening irrepressible and wild attraction in men everywhere.
- We will have you feeling sexually confident with men, like a vixen, a bedroom diva, a sensual playmate who is soft, sweet and knows how give sexual pleasure and how to deepen emotional intimacy through physical intimacy.
- You’ll learn our If You Only Knew You Sexy Man, You exercise will have men drooling on their ties and they won’t know WHY they are sooo attracted to you.
- We will help you feel safe, relaxed and confident enough to marinate in male attention and have him deeply desiring more of your sassy banter and your cat-that-ate-the-canary smiles.
- We will get you AUTHENTICALLY, EFFORTLESSLY smiling and giggling with your man today and in a way that will spark his own humor and desire to entertain you and make you laugh.
- You’ll learn how to exude a certain vivacious energy that grabs male attention from the moment you walk in a room.
- You’ll learn the number one thing most men look for when deciding to commit to a woman forever and how to master having that quality. Hint: It has NOTHING to do with your looks, your ability to perform in the bedroom or your cooking skills.
- We will help you be an oyster shucker and get your man talking often and at length about his vulnerable feelings within and outside the relationship.
- We’ll help turn your body language and body posture into that of a goddess who can draw out the tenderness and affection of ANY MAN, and make him want to honor you as his Love Empress forever. And this has everything to do with feeling safe and free in your personal space when around him.
- You’ll learn HOW to risk vulnerability with a man and let him see your soft, delicate, female tenderness that’s currently buried under heaps of confusion and heartache.
- You’ll learn WHY you must show him your underbelly vulnerability and see HOW it can change everything about his gentlemanly behavior INSTANTLY.
- We will teach you how to handle your anxiety as you get close to him and help you to DRAW HIM TO YOU faster and more intensely than he ever thought possible with a woman.
- You’ll get TONS more to help you to change everything around for yourself and get you triggering extreme feelings of lust and love in his heart for you, today!
- Inspire passion in his heart
- Have a more satisfying relationship, where he “shows up” fully.
- Feel like a new woman inside.
You’ll Also Get… A Meditation MP3
An audio recording of all our Meditative Exercises found in the manuals.
Plus, ones not in the manuals.
That’s almost an hour-long MP3 of our voices taking you through our techniques.
You can practice them in your car or while your soak in a bubble bath.
They are meditations to build your self-belief, soothe your fear centers and your anxiety, help you compel men to want to trust you and love you, and help you build a long-term romance with your man.
“And Guess What Else You’ll Receive? How Would You Like FREE VIP ACCESS To Ask Us Anything You Want?”
We are currently offering ongoing, 24-hour e-mail support, and it’s INCLUDED if you order Inspire His Love For You today.
That means that one of us will PERSONALLY:
- DISSECT, DIAGNOSE and explain EXACTLY where the problems are in your relationship, and what you can do to solve them.
- GUIDE you through the program and help you understand how to it all works to help you.
- Translate “MAN SPEAK” so that you can understand what he’s really saying.
- Help you PUT TOGETHER a PLAN to GET HIM to fall in love.
- Reveal exercises and tools we ONLY use with private clients.
- And much, MUCH MORE…
Not only that, WE WILL PERSONALLY RESPOND TO YOU WITHIN 48 HOURS OF RECEIVING YOUR E-MAIL!
But act now, because our careers as relationship and dating coaches are really taking off and we aren’t available to accept many more clients.
“Inspire His Love For You Offers You A 60-Day Full Money Back Guarantee!”
“We’ll Show You How To Make Him Lust After You, Listen To Your Needs & Care About Your Feelings!”
This program is so powerful. It will make shifts happen in your brain and give you the confidence you’ll need to upsurge his attraction for you and deepen his love.
The program isn’t about feeding you pop psychology theories. It’s not about showing you how to be someone you aren’t to fool him or hook him with intermittent rewards.
It’s about giving you the tools, exercises and scripts you need to help you get out of your own way.
When he starts to feel a NEW ENERGY pouring off you, his primal urge to both protect you and ravish you at the same time will resurface. This is what we call your “cherish quotient”. If you want a man to love you and romance you, you have to have a high cherish quotient!
Love is raw and primal for a man. He can’t convince himself he loves you or talk with you about commitment like it’s a business deal. He has to have passion and unbridled attraction for you or he’s not invested.
“Inspire His Love For You Works. It’s NOT Like That Fluff Out There!”
Inspire His Love For You isn’t like all those other books and coaching programs out there which capitalize off your fears and insecurities by selling your more fear and encouraging more insecurities.
So much love advice out there gives you a list of laws you MUST follow with men and paints some cookie-cutter image you HAVE TO BECOME in order to have him love you.
We work with your personality and give you tools to help you be the best YOU with a man.
We want your inner goddess to awaken so you can LIVE the part and inspire his deep feelings, not ACT the part and make him think you’re too insecure to be yourself around him.
Our results can be Drastic, Lasting, and Immediate!
Do it for yourself. Do it for him.
He wants the kind of loving, honest, sexy, and deeply-connected relationship you want, as badly as you want it!
All Our Inspiration,
- Inspire passion in his heart
- Have a more satisfying relationship, where he “shows up” fully.
- Feel like a new woman inside.
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