Be Irresistible to Men: Owning Your Female Fire!

To be irresistible to men, a lady must first truly fall in love with herself, tending and nurturing HER own happiness, instead of trying to nurture and please ANY MAN!

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If you think that to be irresistible to men is to act like Perfect Patty (laughing all the time, hiding all your negative feelings, having a perfect body, cooking perfect meals and being Suzy Homemaker in your free time), you are asking your man to fall in love with an illusion of you and not with YOU.

Men want women who accept themselves, know their worth and embrace their flaws with grace and kindness! When you are not afraid to be imperfect and to expose all your glorious flaws to a man, then you will end up with a much better relationship. You will end up with a man who truly loves and adores the real you… even when you are in curlers, sans make-up and toting a mini-skirt after lunch at Hometown Buffet!

Now, I don’t mean that you shouldn’t be mindful. Meaning what exactly? Meaning you shouldn’t use the excuse of self-acceptance to be a jerk in your relationship. You shouldn’t assume, “Well, this is me and he has to accept me as I am!”

You should always be aware of how you act in the relationship and always be a considerate and compassionate partner. Don’t be some diva and throw your weight around and think that a quality man who isn’t a doormat is going to stick around. But don’t try to fool him either, making him think you are a saint and a trophy woman. Being an attractive woman isn’t about hiding your ugly feelings and competing for best perma-smile!

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How to be irresistible to men:  Find Your Female Fire!

Female Fire is your true feminine essence, your passion for life, level of confidence, wild and carefree spirit… Your fire is your sassiness and your boldness. It gives you freedom to speak your mind and makes you strong enough to share your vulnerability and insecurities with any man. Your Female Fire is what gives you permission to feel highly sexual and never ashamed or inhibited about your sexuality and/or your body.

How do you find your Female Fire in order to be irresistible to men?  You stop the kinds of thought patterns that will leave you emotionally drained and fearful of love, and you start listening to your heart and passions.  You know that anxious feeling you get when you feel powerless to negativity and you can’t stop marinating in it? That hard-to-control feeling will eat at your mental health and bog you down. It will eventually dwindle your Fire and turn you into a shadow of your best self, and no man wants a shadow creeping up on him.

When you are feeling down due to a man’s behavior in a relationship, it’s so easy to call your girlfriends and harp on and on about the dismal state of your love life. It’s a temporary relief to complain and complain about him to anyone who will listen.  But doing this sets you off on a path of self-defeat.  It’s really hard to get off the phone after complaining for an hour and go do something productive and up lifting.

It’s like when you stop working out and don’t eat well, thus feeling lethargic and moody, which leave you without the will to further workout. A vicious cycle starts up and you soon feel awful, disappointed in yourself, hard on yourself, and depressed about your life.  The same thing can happen in your relationships with men. If you allow a relationship to bring you down and make you feel bad, you will end up feeling like a bad version of yourself in that relationship and because of that relationship.

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Refocus Your Energy Away From Drama

Your female fire is your best you! And to feel it, you have to stay positive and proactive. You can still feel all your feelings (negative and really dark) but you can’t allow those feelings to make choices for you. You can’t let drama and heartache rule your days and make you focus on ‘he-said-she-said’s, instead of on things that make you happy and make you feel good.

When you take your focus off the drama and pain of love and put all that energy into your hobbies, or the aspects of your job that you love, or your family, or your favorite sport, you start feeding the fire, and the fire in turn feeds your ability to have a great relationship. It’s a shift that happens inside you– a choice you make in a moment to stop allowing negativity to be absorbed into your bloodstream.

Your fire, when blazing fierce, gives you the spunk and drive to tell a man what you feel, what you need and how much you love him. It gives you the ability to drop your insecurities and laugh. It gives you to chance to take a yucky, sticky situation in which your man seems disenchanted with you, and turn it into an opportunity to show him how well you can go with the flow of life and not let his issues with the relationship suck you dry of tears and love.

So next time your man says something or does something that makes you feel angry, insecure or sad, feel those feelings and express them to him, but then find a way to take care of yourself and keep your fire blazing. Go do something that makes you happy and do something that shows him that you are too fierce to just wait around with a frown.

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Giving men power over your life’s happiness is NOT attractive and makes men feel burdened. When you can express yourself and then move onto something uplifting without spiraling into a cycle of drama and anxiety, you are sending him a very clear message without ever having to say it directly: “Buddy, if you want this Fire blazing through your life, get with the program or get out of my blessed way!”

Check out my e-book, Red Rose Woman: The Enchantress Inside You. In the book I offer 27 enchantress secrets to help you own your female fire and magnetize men effortlessly. So few men know how to act chivalrous these days. This book will get you the chivalrous treatment you deserve! It will help make you magnetic and show you exactly how to begin being irresistible to men.

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