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Dating Advice For Women: Knowing When To Be Optimistic About Love

Pop psychology loves to pump people full of romanticized faith:  poetic photographs with quotes preaching positivity on friends’ Facebook pages; the word ‘hope’ carved into pocket-size stones and spelled out in rhinestones on hundred-dollar bracelets.  And why not?  Why not encourage a little optimism, especially in love?  With a dismal divorce rate and couples having […]

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He Lost Interest. Now What?

Article I wrote for BlackLoveAdvice.com:   If your relationship has done a 180 and you are now pursuing the man you love instead of being adamantly pursued by him, I know exactly how you feel.  I dated a few guys who went from in love to missing in action.  If he lost interest in you, […]

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How To Spot & Release Emotionally Unavailable Men

An article I wrote for YourTango.com: A relationship when both partners are “all-in” is tough enough. But when your man is emotionally unavailable, things are so much harder. You’re committed to making things work, but he just won’t open up. A tell-tale sign of an emotionally unavailable man is a lack of empathy; check for […]

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How To Fix Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

If you’re scanning this website you’re probably not happy in your love life.  And you’re probably very angry with men as a result.  Maybe a man who you thought was one of the good guys recently dumped you.  Maybe your husband cheated on you and you aren’t sure if you’ll ever be able to forgive […]

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I’m Freaking Out & Reading Into Everything

Here’s a letter written to me from Claudia, who is in a long distance relationship; however, any of us in local relationships could also be in her shoes.   Hi.  I can’t tell you enough how thankful I am to have just bought your program.  My circumstance is very common, I think.  I am freaking out […]

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How To Get Him To Propose To You

Article I wrote for YourTango.com:  You love him and you know he’s the one; he says he loves you but admits he’s not sure if you’re his forever woman.  This not only hurts like hell; it’s maddening.  In your heart, you know that he loves you and would be miserable without you in his life, but […]

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How To Respond When He Needs Space

An article I wrote for YourTango.com: Is the man you love acting like a ghost in your relationship?  Maybe he’s even vocalized that he needs space? Perhaps he claims nothing’s wrong, but he just doesn’t return your texts and seems to be a whole lot busier than he was in the early stages of dating?   Before you […]

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What Is An Emotional Connection?

Emotional intimacy is the heart of a relationship; it gives it a pulse. It doesn’t matter how hot you both are for each other, how aligned your career dreams are with one anothers’, or how much you respect each other’s choices and intelligence—if you don’t share an emotional connection with the man you love, the […]

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What To Do To Keep Your Man From Walking

An article I wrote for YourTango.com: Does the man you love remind you of water—dripping out of your hands the more you try to hold onto him?  I know how frustrating it can be to be madly in love with a guy who doesn’t reciprocate; it doesn’t matter how often you contact him, try to force […]

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The Secret Tool That Will Keep Him Interested

Article I write for YourTango.com   Is the man you love distancing himself from you?  Does something feel “off” about his behavior in your relationship?  If you feel chronically distraught about the state of things and are desperately trying to keep him interested, you may actually be pushing him further away.   If you are […]