Masculine energy screams at a man, “Rough me up, big boy, I dare you. I can take it!” And there is nothing romantic and loving about a man feeling that coming at him from a lady! He may want to bang you, but get close to you emotionally? Nope.
Look, masculine energy isn’t a bad thing in a woman. I have LOADS of it and I’m happier than I’ve ever been in my relationship. The key is to balance it with feminine energy when relating with your man. Men don’t want to be with other men who just happen to have vaginas, they want to be with women who feel, smell and sound like women.
What Masculine Energy Does
Men ARE attracted to masculine energy; however, it’s for reasons that don’t equal love. Masculine energy in a woman is sexy to a man; it makes his honey-stick hard as a rock, exciting him in ways that he can’t even understand. (This is why you save this energy for the bedroom!) The problem with masculine energy is that it makes men compete with you, challenge you and play other various power games with you. Sound fun? It can be but so is playing with fire. Both will burn you. Why?
Men don’t fall deeply in love with masculine energy. They may obsess over a chick with it for a while, chasing a challenging dame or having amazing sex with a mistress who has bucket-loads of sass and fire, but love happens for a man in an entirely different place. Love comes from the heart and feminine energy captures a man’s heart.
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Masculine energy starts and ends with the crotch! It will make you love to argue, throw your weight around, be demanding, act hot and spicy for him. This is all good and dandy and there certainly is a place for this in a relationship, but masculine energy also walls you up. It makes you defensive, hot inside and protective of your inner child. It gives you an aura of “Don’t mess with me!!”. These things may be qualities you covet in yourself and admire in other women, but they aren’t qualities that are going to make a man feel safe with you. And emotional security in a relationship is where deep love breeds.
Feminine Energy Breeds Love
Even the most macho of men (actually, these guys are the most mushy inside) want to have a place where they can take off their ‘man armor’ and feel safe to open up, be vulnerable and be taken care of. Men can’t feel vulnerable around masculine energy because it’s too challenging for them. When you have masculine energy with a man who is trying to open up, he is going to feel like you are telling him to “buck up, you pussy!”. He doesn’t want to feel like that with you. He’s got male friends to do this with. And he certainly WON’T romance you if he feels you are threatening his sensitive side.
Masculine energy in a woman also makes a man feel mothered instead of taken care of. What’s the difference? Mothers have to be authoritative and controlling to a healthy degree. A child needs some structure and a strong parental figure to look to for guidance. The nurturer in you is actually masculine, believe it or not. It’s the same qualities that make for a great, loved boss that also make for a wonderful mom. Look at those women on Nanny911. They have tons of masculine energy (polite yet forceful, strict but loving). Would you want to jump in the sack with them?
If you have masculine energy with a man, he is going to feel castrated. You know how many husbands feel castrated by their polite yet bossy and passively controlling wives? More than you’d like to know. How do I know? They write me all the time, asking me to help their wives and even trying to woo me out of a desperate loneliness and need for validation. This is actually the reason a lot of immature (and some mature) men cheat– they feel castrated and they don’t have the spine and communication skills to speak up about their feelings and needs.
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When you have feminine energy, you don’t dictate, control, manage, belittle a man. You automatically make him feel like he can do anything and the world is his oyster. Feminine energy allows a man to expose himself without fear of being nagged, pressured to change himself, judged, condescended, or manipulated. He will know that he can share his underbelly with you and you will hold his truths in your soul like its a heart-shaped locket around your neck.
Feminine Energy Invites A Man To Be Romantic With You
When you bleed feminine energy from your pores, a man can’t help but feel a sense of duty to protect you and shield you from the big bad world. Yes, okay, you are perfectly capable of shielding yourself, but you are also capable of cooking for yourself and this doesn’t stop you from loving a great dinner at a five star restaurant where someone else serves YOU. Romance is same. If you allow yourself to feel soft, sensitive, silly, goofy, laugh-y, sensuous and even unnerved in the presence of a good man, you will trigger his Prince Charming gene. Every man has this gene, it’s just a question of provoking his.
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Feminine energy also makes a man romantic because it makes him want to ravish you. When a man sees the more vulnerable and tender side of you (this is more than just a soft voice and a polite attitude– this is about emotional surrender to the moment and to his advances), he will feel horny and eager to put his maleness inside you. It’s a very primal thing and it’s extremely visceral. It’s NOT about the kind of rough and hot sex that masculine energy ignites in his groin and imagination; this is less about conquering and more about possessing. The difference is everything. A man can want to conquer you sexually (tame the shrew) but if he wants to possess you, that’s about closeness. Wanting to possess a woman will make a man romantic and inspire him to woo her like his cherished angel. It will make him want to ravish you and protect you all at the same time: “I’m gonna keep her safe from all those horny men out there who want to sexually consume her the way I want to!”
Red Rose Woman: The Enchantress Inside You is my ebook for women who want to own their feminine energy and use their masculine energy to help them succeed in the world outside of men and love.