How To Prevent Him From Losing Interest
Was he “all about you” in the beginning of the relationship and now acts like you’re the thing that ate his life? Has he stopped calling? Does he seems irritated when he does spend time when you?
If you are going through a role-reversal, where you have become the pursuer and the one who fights for the relationship, I know how hard that can be and I’m so sorry!
I dated a couple of guys that came onto me like gangbusters in the early stages of knowing me. They chased me, wooed me and practically begged me to give them the exclusivity and commitment. However, things changed once I let my guard down and fell in love with these men.
Soon I was treated like a pariah. They would take hours to return my calls and I always felt like they took me out on a date (or came over for a booty call) when there wasn’t anything else to do. That’s how I felt—like being with me with something to do to blow the time.
Instead of leaving these guys and getting back out there on the dating scene, I stuck around. I tried to work hard to impress these guys and show them that I was worth their hearts.
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Maybe you can relate to my history with these men? Do you feel like you have a pattern of turning guys off of you? If so, first let me say that it’s probably as much the type of guy you pick, as it is your behavior in a relationship. In fact, it may be just the guys you pick. However, to help you feel better about getting close to a new guy, here are some tips to prevent him from losing interesting in you:
Don’t Push Him Away Or Pull Him Closer
When you getting to know a guy, it’s best to let him come toward you. Think of him as the one who “moves.” He may move toward you or away from you at times, and I’m asking that you stay still. I call it “sitting on your hands.” When you can be still and remain open-hearted with welcoming energy, you appear confident.
As you get closer to a man, there are going to be times where he will pull back for a bit. Maybe he needs to recoup or make decisions about the relationship. This is natural. It’s important that you don’t punish him for this behavior. Instead of pulling back too, just remain on your hands. When he comes back to you, don’t make him pay for taking space. Be honest about how it made you feel, but stay grounded and let him come toward you again.
Just like it’s important not to push a man away as you get close to him, it’s important not to pull him toward you either. Don’t chase men and don’t try to transform yourself into the type of woman he wants you to be. If you feel the urge to impress him, please him, cater to him, stop yourself and breath. Don’t let you fear of being rejected by him take away your power. Stay sitting on your hands.
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Prevent Him From Losing Interest By Owning Your Emotions
Too many women think that that owning their emotions means shoving them down and not letting a man see the anger, sadness and fear. They try to be perfectly happy and practical girlfriends. So many women buy that lie that love gurus are telling women to follow that preaches that men like rational, practical women who think and act like men.
Men don’t want women who happen to have vaginas. They want that feminine energy to balance their masculine energy. Feminine energy isn’t about pretending to be practical and emotionless. It’s about expressing emotion.
When you “own” your emotions, you express them in a healthy way. Healthy emotional expression in a relationship is all about being honest and open without being overbearing and overwhelming.
When you can admit that you are sad, angry, worried, etc. with the same openness and confidence as you would have when expressing your happiness, you own your feelings. Men are attracted to this quality in a mate. It makes you interesting, fascinating and exciting to be with. It also makes you SAFE to be with, because you are an open book and that creates emotional security for a man.
Step Into Your Sensuality
It’s hard to feel sexy when you don’t believe you are; however, any woman, regardless of her self-image, can feel sensual. Sensuality is all about living in your senses and feeling alive in your body.
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Men respond to sensuality because it makes them feel their own aliveness. This equals hot! for a guy. Ever hear about men leaving their sweet, polite wives because they’ve lost attraction? A lot of the time, this is related to him not feeling his own aliveness through the relationship.
A man will quickly slip away from a woman who is a walking head. You have to be alive in your body: exercise and indulge your senses with good music, healthy food and soft touches. Take long, hot baths or pay for a massage now and then. Find a way to melt stress and feel less tense in your body through meditation and a manageable workload. This will help him feel “soft and melty” when he’s with you and will prevent him from losing interest in you. He will never put you in the “friend zone” if you can “tenderize” him this way.
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