Looking for a status makeover?
If you’re single or in a relationship and want to tie the knot, my friend and fellow dating coach Rachel Russo can help you find Mr. Right and inspire him to take the plunge!
Rachel, a NYC-based Dating, Relationship, & Image Coach for marriage-minded singles and couples, is sassy, smart and very knowledgable. With a master’s degree in Marriage & Family Therapy, Rachel offers her Status Makeover coaching sessions to help women buff and polish their goddess energy. She’ll give you confidence, happiness and a li’l sexy in your step to go out into the world and rope in the most fabulous man, effortlessly!
Rachel took some time out from her busy schedule to answer a few questions for my readers. Read on to discover some amazing online dating tips, advice how on to approach the “talk” about commitment, and more…
You refer to your single and couples coaching sessions as status makeover courses? I love the idea of a status makeover—going for “It’s complicated” or “Is single” to “in a relationship”! Without giving too much away, what would you tell women to expect from a coaching session with you?
The philosophy of Status Makeover is that we should love our love lives—no matter what our status. In an initial coaching session, I’d take an assessment of a woman’s love life. I’d learn the details of her relationship history and her beliefs about dating, relationships, love, and marriage. I’d listen closely to her story to pinpoint patterns and trends. Together, we’d determine her strengths, weakness, opportunities, and threats for achieving her goals for the future. Whether a female client wants to end, find, or keep love, my job in an initial session is to provide her with a solid, fun, efficient, and effective plan for how to do it.
You say that your coaching programs for singles are designed for those people who have it all and just want a great love life. Why do you think there are so many fabulous people who are single? Is it just that they haven’t had time for love, had bad luck in the past or is there some other personality factor that keeps a smart, sexy, got-it-all gal from finding the relationship she deserves?
There are a lot of fabulous people who are single because they have spent most of their life focused on making themselves fabulous. Women today are socialized to develop their career first and then find a man. Many focus too much on work, and before they know it they are never married forty-year olds competing with twenty-five years olds for the few good relationship-oriented men that are still standing. Other women simply spent too many of their best years in love with the wrong guys.
On your site, StatusMakeover.com, you claim that you can show a woman how to look at a man’s online dating profile and see if he’s worth her time. It’s really interesting. What’s one thing you would advise women to look for when scrolling through profiles?
Of course you can’t always judge a book by its cover, but when it comes to online dating profiles; it is in a woman’s best interest to avoid men with red flags. If a woman is looking for a man who is serious about getting married, a short and crappy profile is a red flag. Marriage-minded men get professional headshots and create well-written, detailed profiles. They take the time to make a good first impression because they are genuinely looking for love.
You also offer relationship counseling. What can a woman do to help spice up her sex life with her man? What can she do to build emotional intimacy? Do you think sex and emotional intimacy go hand-in-hand in a long-term relationship?
There are plenty of things a woman can do to keep things hot in the bedroom from roleplaying, sex toys, sensual massages, and sexy outfits, to just reading each other sex scenes in romance novels. Emotional intimacy can be built through open and honest conversations—sans the judgments. A woman needs to share her feelings and show vulnerability with her man so he feels safe doing the same. I think sex is better when there is emotional intimacy, but some couples can still have satisfying sex lives without the intimacy.
Having the “talk” about commitment is really scary for women because it can easily push a man away. What do you advise a woman should say or not say to help get her man to open up and talk honestly and lovingly about where he is at in the relationship?
Call me old school, but I believe a man should lead in terms of relationship progression. I don’t advise women to initiate conversation about where the relationship stands. I believe that if a man wants a serious commitment, a woman will know it. All she can do is be open and honest about how she feels and hope he will be on the same page. With men, actions speak louder than words. If a woman doesn’t see that a guy wants to be serious, she should assume he isn’t ready or willing to commit and keep her options open.
Confidence is so important when dating. It makes a woman or man attractive and easy to be with. However, if a woman doesn’t have much confidence, what do you advise that she can do to feel better about herself and appear more radiantly confident?
If a woman is lacking confidence, I suggest that she give herself and her living space a makeover. When we look beautiful and are surrounded by beauty, we feel beautiful. Sometimes just cleaning out your closet and creating new outfits out of what you already have can make you feel incredibly powerful. Once a woman starts feeling empowered-and not a victim of her circumstances-she naturally radiates confidence.
How can a woman who wants to have a status makeover get in touch with you?
If she’s just flirting with the idea, she can tweet me @RachelTRusso
If she’s pretty much ready to get started, she can email me at Rachel@RachelRusso.com
If she wants to start making over her love life today, she can call me at 973 223 6406.